As many of you know, during February, March , and April I was very adamant on finding a healthy routine for myself. I wanted to prioritize the right things to kick off the year with healthy habits. Some of which were fitness related, some relational, and some were just personal wants and needs. Now that I’ve found my rhythm, I want to invite you on a journey with me! For the remainder of May, I want to welcome you to the “May I” series! This is going to be a weekly thing where we challenge ourselves to new thought processes. I’ll be putting out videos, blogs, music ideas, and encouraging content so we all can continue loving ourselves and living well!
To kick things off, our first “May I” in the series is:
May I make time for the things I love without fear of slander or humiliation.
We are starting off deep this week, and here’s why. For a long time I was terrified to let others know what I deeply and truly loved to do. I didn’t want people to know I liked to write because I didn’t want the criticism. I didn’t want people to know I loved working out because I didn’t want them to look at me and think “Yeah- I’m sure YOU like to work out. Look at all that extra weight you carry in your face and tummy.” I was afraid to post about anything besides what everyone else posted, because I knew drawing attention to myself would also draw other people’s opinions. Simply put, I was scared of what everyone would say about me behind my back.
We cannot live in constant fear of other peoples negativity. When we do that, we create our own unnecessary, false sense of negativity. Don’t think that others are going to think poorly of you. Don’t trap those thoughts in your brain. Sometimes the biggest thief of joy is a misconception we concluded in our brain.
When you let what other people might think become a part of your criteria, you lose the space to enjoy your favorite things. Make time for your hobbies, friends, and joy by simply shutting down those negative ideas in your head!
Also, let me be perfectly clear. We are not to be the person that others would be afraid to tell their passions to. Reread that again. Maybe even say it out loud. I will NOT be someone that makes others feel inferior for their passions. Sometimes, we don’t see that we do the thing we fear that others might do. Here’s how we can shut that down in our own thoughts and conversations towards others:
Don’t call people lazy for liking video games.
Don’t call people basic for liking to shop.
Don’t infer that people are trying to change themselves because they like to workout.
Don’t call people bad names because they enjoy the arts.
Don’t make other people uncomfortable because their taste is different than yours.
Don’t call people weird for liking anime or things that require subtitles.
There are many more examples, but you get the gist.
You are uniquely and wonderfully created. Make time for the passions and the things that make you, YOU. Then, also allow room for others to do the same for themselves.
We will not live in fear of other peoples thoughts, and we also will not be the people other people fear thoughts from!
May you and I do better by cherishing each other differences, and not trying to fit ourselves or others into an impossible mold.