Welcome to week 3 of challenging our thinking through the May I series. Some people say “third times the charm”, and honestly they may be right with this one. Today’s challenging thought is:
May I live like I am already loved and chosen.
This is a doozy for most people. I know it has been difficult for me, my friends, and even family. We are created to want to be loved and feel loved. We desire the feeling of being chosen and taken care of from the early stages of life.
When we are little we desire the love and attention of our parents or guardians. Then, we start desiring love and attention from friendships, and eventually wanting that with a romantic relationship. We want so badly to belong, and we focus a lot of time and energy into it. Working on relationships of any kind is a must. You have to nurture them for them to thrive. Yet, sometimes we overlook the importance of nurturing ourselves in the process.
We are nurtured through the relationship with have in Christ, but also those that we open our heart to on a day-to-day basis.
This nurturing takes form in honest and open communication, encouragement, quality time spent together, and challenging each other to follow our dreams and be the best person we can be. When we let people into our lives who want to do the opposite of nurture, we start to become worn down. Often times it is because we have become comfortable with accepting less than we deserve.
When we let ourselves go without the nurturing we need, we start to get sick. By this I mean, we start to practice unhealthy habits in our friendships and relationships that put our overall health at risk. Some of these things include:
-Letting people walk all over us
-Running ourselves into the ground for others
-Prioritizing people who only do harm
-Overlooking red flags
When you know you are loved and chosen you are aware of what you deserve. You have that deep rooted sense of belonging, and you do not let people try to take that away from you. It’s not a sense of belonging that comes from human interaction, but by knowing that you were created on purpose, and with a purpose. You have something to bring to the table, and you want to be around the people who see that, cherish that, and champion that.
When you know what you deserve you don’t settle for boys or girls that mess with your emotions. You don’t let friends make you feel like you have to beg for their attention. You don’t stay in environments that couldn’t care less about your well-being. You don’t allow parents to speak negative things over your life.
Loved and chosen people take responsibility for the people they let in their space. Your heart, soul, and health are precious, and you know that. You take care of your surroundings and make sure to take care of those in your space as well.
When we forget who we are, we start to let people take advantage of us. We are overshadowed by the drive to be chosen, that we ignore the ill intentions of others. Our temporary forgetfulness can open doors to events that could have been avoided if we had only known who we were. That’s why we have to be alert, and in constant remembrance that God created us with such intent we don’t have to let some random human-being try and decide if we are worth the time.
As stated in previous posts we are our own autonomous person, so we get to choose what we do in our life. Therefore, choose to walk in knowledge of your worth. You can save yourself from so much heartache and misfortune by simply understanding that Christ loved you and chose you for eternity. You are unique, wonderful, and have so much to bring to the table. You are whole in Christ Jesus and you don’t need another human being to fill your gaps. You just need relationships that encourage you to be everything you can be through Christ.
Stand up for your worth everyday. Walk with your head-held-high, and be the person who reminds those that they’re worth the time and effort. We don’t have to submit ourselves to heartache, and inconsistency. We can choose to walk in knowledge, and watch as the right people start to come and stay in our lives.